It's a scenario that happens all the time: You've met a new friend or co-worker and you instantly feel a connection. The two of you just click and soon, the text messages are flowing freely.
You're cracking inside jokes, you're very subtly flirting and you're thinking about him or her all the time. It sounds like the start of a very promising new romantic relationship. You're already in a relationship -- and it may instead be the start of an emotional affair.
What's that, you ask? Below, relationship experts offer an explainer on emotional infidelity: In a nutshell, what is an emotional affair?
How is it any different than a close, platonic friendship? An emotional affair is essentially an affair of the heart, said Sheri Meyers, a marriage therapist and the author of Chatting or Cheating: Unlike a platonic friendship, there's sexual chemistry between the two of you -- and there's definitely s ome fantasies playing out in your head, she said.
You may even share unflattering details about your relationship with this new person -- and naturally, you don't say a word about any of this to your S.
Eventually you may become more deeply invested in imagining what could be with this person, said David Wygant, a dating and relationship coach.
At some point, your actual partner can't possibly compare with the other man or woman in your life, said Gal Szekely, the founder of the Couples Center for therapy in Northern California. So by that definition, I'm not having an emotional affair if we're just friends, right?