A fear of abandonment can be like the elephant in the room of a relationship.
Its large and looming presence is always there, casting a shadow over your efforts to let in love and connection. You might find it hard to truly trust people and let them in because you believe that they will leave you.
Like any fear, the fear of abandonment can cause a lot of emotional pain. It also creates a self-fulfilling prophecy pattern in your relationships. Building a new relationship, platonic or romantic, requires trust and the ability to let go.
Both of these things are very difficult when you have a fear of abandonment. All the fear and trust issues manifest in specific coping mechanisms that often end up pushing the potential love away—the very thing you were trying to avoid!
Many people struggle with a fear of abandonment. Thankfully, there are better ways to deal with the fear, and start cultivating healthier relationships.
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The teeniest tiniest step taken with clear intention will get you further than sprinting without direction. Allow me to explain….
Have you ever met someone who reads every self-help book they can get their hands on? It takes time and intention.
I always tell my students and clients to focus on just ONE actionable step or mindset shift they can do right now. Perhaps, your parents divorced when you were a kid. Maybe your dad left. Look for examples of the kind of relationship you aspire to in your friends or acquaintances. I once met a couple from Paris while I was travelling. They were celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary.
I asked them the secret to a successful relationship. They both agreed that communication was key.
Another couple might have given totally different advice. The important thing is to see that a longterm, fulfilling relationship is possible. One of the laws of the universe is that an empty space must be filled.
Let go of the man who makes you feel neglected and unimportant. Let go of the toxic woman who manipulates you.